Being a parent is hard…

Crazy Hair!

Today Malachi is two weeks old, and I still feel like I’m flying by the seat of my pants as a parent.  It’s really funny that we spent so much time over the past 9 months preparing for the actual birth and almost no time preparing for the next 18 years!  And unfortunately, the stork did not provide us with an instruction manual.  Which means I find myself asking the doctor questions like, “is it normal for babies to have so much gas?”  Normal is relative I suppose.  But like most things, there is joy in the learning process, and even more joy in being a parent!

Perhaps it’s the lack of sleep, or maybe having to adjust to the schedule of a two-week-old, but I have found that Malachi has made me paranoid.   Did you know that if babies are fed properly but not held they will not survive? It makes me want to hold that baby 24/7.  It makes me want to hold all babies.  It makes me want to check on him 1,000 times during the night.  Jenny and I ask each other, “do you think he’s o.k.” at least as often as we ask, “do you think you could change him this time.”  And we change him.  A lot.  Is that normal?  Maybe I’ll check with the doctor.

About Parson Carson

I am a husband, father, United Methodist pastor, Wolfpack fan, and outdoor enthusiast who loves meeting new people and hearing their stories... All while trying my best to love God and love others!
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14 Responses to Being a parent is hard…

  1. Nancy Carson says:

    Just text your MOM, she has all the answers and the number one answer is…yes,YOU are doing everything that a new Dad should be doing and even more! I’m proud of you Ben. It brings me so much joy watching you be an awesome DADDY!

  2. cheryl says:

    YES Ben you are sooo normal. It would be wonderful if children came with a manual! Enjoy! Love you guys!

  3. Dot Abrams says:

    I don’t think you will have to worry at all about “failure to thrive”! Not with Grandma Nancy and Gramps Joe and Auntie Katherine…. I have always said that the greatest gift in raising a child is ALL THE THINGS THAT CHILD TEACHES YOU…it is most definitely a two-way street! You worry….that just means you will be AWESOME PARENTS! 🙂

  4. Wayne Carter says:

    You know, Ben, after raising 4 kids for 18+ years each, I can tell you something important — you will NEVER figure out what is “normal” — you will always be flying by the seat of your pants through the entire process of parenting!! What works for one won’t even come close to working for the next….just hold, cuddle and love this little guy — you can’t go wrong with that one!!
    Nana Carter

  5. Wayne Carter says:

    Oh, yes, and keep changing those diapers — diaper rash is awful ! 🙂
    Nana again

  6. Katherine Church says:

    Ben, you and Jenny are already great parents! I love your blog updates. But I really love that I am only 25 minutes away from my sweet little nephew! Love you all!

  7. Hi, came across your blog. Congrats on your little one! I have an 18 month old daughter. It’s rough in the first weeks, esp. going on lack of sleep. Each day is something different and you learn as you go. 🙂 It gets easier! They will learn to sleep normal hours(probably seems nearly impossible at this point so far though). At 18 months, I feel like I’m at such a great point with my daughter. She’s moving all around, more independent, is talking/learning to say new things and sleeps like a champ. Except now instead of asking “does a baby really have this much gas” we’re asking, “how does such a huge poop come out of this little body and is this normal”? Ha. Good luck and enjoy!

  8. Thanks! It’s amazing how much your life changes… and you are right, each day is something different! 😉

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